In the haze of learning to navigate how to parent 2 kids instead of just one, I forgot something about myself. I forgot how to trust my instincts. Anyone who knows my youngest one knows that I’ve got my hands more than full. She just turned 2 and is an absolute badass. She is a sparkly, effervescent explosion of love and joy. And she also does what the fuck she wants. From spilling full gallons of paint to dancing on the table to making snow angels in spilled smoothies, this kid is non stop. The learning curve from one kid to two was incredibly steep. I’m just now finding my footing and regaining the confidence that I once had to follow my heart.
Given the fact that I’m choosing to do something so outside the norm, I fully understand that there are risks. I understand that with the good always comes the bad, and that is true whether you live a totally buttoned up, risk-free life, or decide to do something crazy like quit your job and travel the full time. Whether you send your kid to private school or public school or homeschool or unschool there are negatives involved. No one option is perfect for anyone. When you do something outside the norm, however, people get really interested in the things that could go wrong. What if I fight with my co-homestead family? What if I’m miserable being cooped up in a tiny rv with two kids? Where will I put all my stuff? What about school?
Living in a normal house and sending your kids to normal school has a set of challenges and downsides that we tend to overlook. I’m just now opening my eyes and taking a serious look at what choices I make and why I make them. I realize that I’ve been doing some things just because that’s what you do, and not because they make any damn sense to me personally. I’m ready to trade those “normal” challenges for the ones that will allow me to have more creative and financial freedom and give my kids more access to nature. Does it mean it won’t be hard? No. Does it mean I won’t have failures and misadventures? No. Does it mean my life and my kids and everything I do will be more amazing than your life and your kids and the things that you do? Hell no. It just means I don’t have to force myself to do things that don’t make sense to me.
Getting to this point has not been easy. Learning to identify the things that I do for no good reason has not been easy. What has helped me get to this point is tons of self examination, lots of reading, and a healthy dose of really inspiring blogs and youtube videos and channels. I’m going to share some of those in upcoming posts because I think it’s great to see more examples of people following their hearts and finding happiness.