This blog used to be a place for crafty projects and interviews. And it was a place to showcase the things that I make. And now this blog gets to be something new. This is where I will document and share the next phase of my life. The one where I sell my house, move my family into a renovated motorhome, shop for the perfect land, co-homestead and co-homeschool with another family or two. This blog is where I say FUCK IT. I’m a grown up and I’m not going to be afraid to follow my dreams.
How did we get here? Well, after moving to Oregon from California, we lived in a crooked, hundred year old house that I really loved. It was great when we had no kids. It was okay when we had one. It became utterly horrible when we had two. I thought I needed more space because people told me I needed more space. Honestly I just wanted to find a cute little ranch style house so everything would be on one level. But when we got around to house shopping my significant other wanted something as new as possible. Eric and I put in offers on 3 houses before we found ours. It’s bigger than our old place, and two stories. It’s in a great neighborhood, surrounded by nice houses. It has new appliances. We’re supposed to love it and we’re supposed to “upgrade” eventually. We’re supposed to want granite countertops and newer cars. We’re supposed to need more space when our kids get bigger. We’re supposed to keep our lawn green all the way through summer. We’re supposed to send our kids to school so they can get “good” jobs and buy their own even bigger houses I guess. It’s been a year of living in this house and we have realized that we don’t want any of that. Not the house. Not even the damn grass.
What do we want? We want to be surrounded by nature, close to people with good energy, to feel creatively fulfilled, to be less anxious about money, to be released from a cycle of spending that never ever solves the problems we think it will, and to feel supported in our homeschooling/unschooling journey.
Before finding our current path, we had looked into intentional communities (If you don’t know what that is, think modern communes). We looked into the local co-housing subdivision, which is very eco-friendly, but also ridiculously cost-prohibitive. We were kind of just exploring ideas when my friend, Sara, gave us some surprising news. She told our mom group that she and her husband were going to sell their house, buy land, and build cobb house on it, start a homestead, and unschool their kids. And not just that, but she would love if any of us or all of us would join her! What a wild and exciting conversation that was. I was so pumped for her. I was really thrilled that she and her husband and her kids were going to go live their dream. It was so close to my own dreams, and it sounded heavenly, but at first I couldn’t imagine selling my house or leaving my town. The more that Eric and I talked about it, however, the more we realized that what Sara and Tony were offering us was exactly what we had been tiptoeing around but really wanted for ourselves. Sharing land and being part of a very small, close community of friends and kids is like a dream, especially when your kids are as young as ours are, and yet it’s a scary thing to try and create in real life, and we’ve been lucky enough to be part of a group of people who I genuinely feel will be amazing role models and co-parents. People who I hope my kids will think of as aunts and uncles one day.
So there you have it. Stay tuned for pictures of our motorhome, posts about co-housing, multi-family parenting, shopping for land, building a homestead from scratch, and all things related to being utterly unafraid to do something way, way out of the norm.